** Originally composed on 3/15/2012
I have been researching christian "flirting" recently, and I wonder if a girl should tell her suitor to refrain from Christian "flirting". It can be a distraction. I feel maybe a girl can become enamored with the attention that she receives from the gestures, instead of who he is a child of God. These gestures are by no means sexual in nature at all, but nice acts of kindness. Thoughtful deeds, extra attention, is so sweet and special, like helping a woman with her coat, or staying back and keeping her company while she finishes her task,when everyone has moved on to the next segment. Just that attention to detail speaks volumes. But does that take away from getting to know her suitor? When she looks back at past interactions, why does the nice overtures come to mind first? And not he is a man of integrity? Or, his heart for God? Should a woman say something to her suitor with the risk that he may be offended? Or he might totally turn it down (or off?) and you are left like a "buddy" and lose all the attention? And what do you say when you want him to "turn" the nice gestures back on? All these questions and more are floating in my head and I am not sure how to proceed? Maybe through time, things will be more defined. (Of all places I am putting this on the internet. Am I crazy?)
I have been researching christian "flirting" recently, and I wonder if a girl should tell her suitor to refrain from Christian "flirting". It can be a distraction. I feel maybe a girl can become enamored with the attention that she receives from the gestures, instead of who he is a child of God. These gestures are by no means sexual in nature at all, but nice acts of kindness. Thoughtful deeds, extra attention, is so sweet and special, like helping a woman with her coat, or staying back and keeping her company while she finishes her task,when everyone has moved on to the next segment. Just that attention to detail speaks volumes. But does that take away from getting to know her suitor? When she looks back at past interactions, why does the nice overtures come to mind first? And not he is a man of integrity? Or, his heart for God? Should a woman say something to her suitor with the risk that he may be offended? Or he might totally turn it down (or off?) and you are left like a "buddy" and lose all the attention? And what do you say when you want him to "turn" the nice gestures back on? All these questions and more are floating in my head and I am not sure how to proceed? Maybe through time, things will be more defined. (Of all places I am putting this on the internet. Am I crazy?)
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